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Recognizing the Star Leadership Qualities of your Team

I just returned from a terrific trip to Chicago where I was asked to speak at the Annual Meeting for the SSATB and their members from across the United States and Canada, with admission directors from all over the world as well. It was an exciting mix of individuals, all dedicated to helping students succeed and schools thrive.

Lion on Guard - The Art Institute of Chicago

I met some really interesting people and heard some inspiring folks speak as well (not to mention taking in some of the beautiful sights of Chicago!).

My talk, “The Secret Sauce of Leadership – Coaching Skills for Success” included some fundamental leadership and coaching skills, which are often overlooked. It also focused on how we as leaders need to remember to see the “Star” – the brilliance in each person on our teams.  This is about seeing the best in people and also seeing them as creative, inventive and undamaged.

I was asked if that didn’t seem a bit “Polly Anna”. My reply to his inquiry was that no, it’s not about ignoring the aspects of yourself or another that aren’t working very well in the moment but more about “Assume Goodwill”. Making the assumption that this person actually wants to be of contribution in some way but is perhaps off the mark in the moment.

Our job as leaders is to hold up the mirror in a supportive and honest way – helping them to see the aspects of their work or contributions that may need more attention and focus. While also acknowledging and championing the parts that Are going well too.  Allowing them to see their own capabilities with fresh eyes, honest feedback and encouragement so they can find their motivation and energy to continue doing their best.

We are all human, each with our good days, bad days and perhaps even stumbling around in the fog days. It is because we are human that this principal is so important.  When individually, we are the one having an off day, it’s important to have compassion with ourselves, to find our way back to our path to get moving again. Beating yourself up is generally a waste of time and energy. Figure out where you got off track, correct and continue.

When dealing with others though, you need to be more mindful of your words and actions and the impact that they can have. What’s the impact that you want to leave others with as a leader?  How are you empowering others through your words and deeds, helping them to expand their confidence as a leader, enhance their skills and move the goals of your organization forward?

I believe that “Everyone is a Leader, All of the Time”. You see, leadership comes in many forms, small and large. When you adopt this attitude, you’ll be surprised how the people you interactive with on a daily basis start to show up a little differently, perhaps even standing up a little taller because you saw them in a more empowered way, seeing the star qualities shining within them.

We have to be able to see the Star in ourselves as well, so we can actually see that brilliance in others too. When we can’t, it has a tremendous effect on how we move through the world and the blinders that we put on ourselves.

Here’s a self-assessment to try on:

As you go through the next 24 hours, notice where your thoughts and emotions are predominately. Are they below or above the water line?  Below the waterline being anywhere from Boredom to Pain to Hate to Regret. Whereas above the waterline is anywhere from Content to Cheerful to Love to Serenity.

Are Your Thoughts & Emotions Above or Below the Waterline?

This predominant perspective you’re walking around with is most likely coloring not only how you see yourself but how you see others as well. Making it more apparent or more difficult to see the brilliance in yourself, and in others.

(BTW, Each of these emotions also have a specific energetic vibrational level as well. And as the saying goes – “like attracts like” – these energetic frequencies will attract to you others at similar energetic levels. So if you notice a bunch of “Negative Nellies” hanging around you, be sure to pause and notice where your thoughts, emotions and energy are and consider what might need to shift within your perspective to create an outward effect.)

Bottom line – as humans, we each want to be seen, heard and respected for the contributions we make, large or small. When we can recognize and appreciate these contributions in others, it is a gift we give them; one that helps them to stand a little taller as they recognize their own authentic talents, knowing that they made a difference – A gift that will surely leave a positive ripple in its wake.

To Your Success~

Michele

Founder Nectar Consulting, Inc.Looking for an inspirational and engaging speaker for your next organizational conference or meeting? Michele will give you tools to expand your success as a leader that you can put to work immediately!

What participants had to say:

“Michele’s interactive and accessible style provided us with powerful, useful and relevant information to broaden our leadership skills.” – J. McDermott

She teaches highly effective skills woven in with compelling stories and examples that were relevant to our group.” – C. Gerber

“These skills will be particularly effective in dealing with negative co-workers”. – M. Snyderman

“These are communication tools that I can put to good use, not only at my next office meeting but in many areas of both my professional and personal life.” – D. Curtis

Contact me to discuss your goals for your upcoming meeting or conference and how I can customize a talk for your organization.

 

 

5 Steps to Getting Unstuck

In life and in business, we get stuck on the side of the road. The road of where we want to go. The road where we are traveling towards our goals but somehow we’ve gotten off track, keeping us from getting to where we have our sites set on going.

Besides the ever-popular Tow Truck that you can call to get you going again, what can you do to get you back on track and moving forward again?

Here are a few suggestions that have worked for me along my path…

(0)   Tow Truck… (I actually wrote this while waiting for the tow truck the other day when my car temporarily stopped going forward…LOL!)

(1)   Keep breathing – noticing where you’re holding your breath. Keeping from fully taking in what’s available to you to help you.  When you take a deep breath in, letting it out more slowly than the inhale, it slows down your sympathetic nervous system which helps you tune into what your body and heart need more than your perhaps racing mind.

(2)   Figure out what you might be afraid of. What are you avoiding? What’s really in between you and achieving your goals?  When you can get at the underlying issues, it’s much easier to figure out what corrective measures are needed. Otherwise you might be putting a band aid on the problem while not really finding a true solution.

(3)   Get clear on what your goals are from Today’s perspective. Not yesterday’s, or last year’s and Certainly not the goals that someone else may have “loaned” you (No parents have ever done that…) And while you’re at it, don’t be plain vanilla with your goals – be outrageous! What’s the Big Hairy Audacious Goal (BHAG) that you dare to dream? What would it take to achieve it? And when you DO achieve what will it FEEL like?  As you get clear on what your heart’s desires are – the ones that stir you passion and purpose, you’ll be far more motivated to get into high gear and creating your dreams!

(4)   Now you can get into action! Determine your plan first, don’t go running all willy-nilly in circles. Write out what steps are needed and by when. Who can help you with each of these steps (remember, you don’t have to do this on your own – ASK FOR ASSISTANCE!) And once you determine what the steps are, then you’ll want to put them down in your calendar. Earmarking time in each day or each week to make your way through your list. Just think with each checked off item, you’re one step closer to reaching your BHAG!

(5)   Take time to celebrate as you achieve each of your mini goals leading up to the Big Goal! You’ve worked hard to get this far, be sure to take time to notice and appreciate your accomplishments. Setting up rewards along the way is helpful too – everyone appreciates a break for a job well done. What are the little or big things that you can dangle as carrots out in front of you to help you reach each of your milestones with more joy and fun?  Celebrating along the way with each of these little accomplishments will also help you keep your momentum, energy and enthusiasm for your dream – fanning the flames if you will to give you more go juice and inspiration for the road ahead!

 

A big thanks to the many people who have helped me along my path and inspired me to see new opportunities, especially when I was stuck or off track!

With Gratitude!

Michele

Founder Nectar Consulting, Inc. If you need some additional assistance in getting unstuck and moving forward again, contact me to schedule your complimentary executive strategy consultation. We’ll see where you’re at and what’s need to get you headed towards your goals & continued success.